Koleya’s balancing act
I was working in Mexico when my son said his first big word. The first time he said “Waffle”, a wave of sheer guilt crashed over me. “He is growing up without me!” I thought, “I’m missing everything!” But these natural thoughts didn’t last long.
It took a brief period of self-awareness to realize this wasn’t the case. The reality was I was doing all this for my family and that I’m taking care of them the best way I know how; dwelling on it will not serve a purpose.
The stigma remains, if I were the man this would be understandable and acceptable, but because I’m a woman, I’m supposed to be at home and that I’m neglecting my duties as a mother; here’s the thing that needs to be understood – other mothers have no right to make you feel bad or guilty about being a working mom.
The fact is, when raising kids AND working, the mindset can be archaic…
In our society, I’ve found that many women just don’t relate to the entrepreneur mom juggling the duties of raising her children. Instead, I have consistently come across women who exclaim “I couldn’t imagine having a child and letting a stranger raise them while I was away at work.”
However, there is an element of truth here…
Yes, we are providers. Yes, we are nurturers. But the fact is, we are able to provide and nurture in many other ways. Just because I’m not at home with my children 24/7 doesn’t mean I am any less involved in their lives or that I am in any way a neglectful mother.
I’ve made some keen observations as I’ve worked to balance my life as a motivational speaker, and a momprenuer: